That made me think. What a stupid thing to say, and yet so many songs are filled with a variation of that lyric. Why do I think it’s a dumb concept? Because, like it or not, we are all changing (just look at yourself in the mirror and see how many wrinkles have been appearing lately). Now perhaps you feel that the lyric is noble – that it is about holding strong to an ideal. It’s not. Listen to the rest of the song. It’s usually just hot air.
When my husband and I were talking about marriage, he said to me, “Laryssa, I hope that you are not one of those women who think that you can change your husband, because I am not going to change in our marriage, what you see is what you get!”
That actually almost made me call off the wedding. I told him that if he wasn’t planning on changing in our marriage that there was no point in our being together. Why would a person not want to change? Not want to be better? Be content with sitting in the entropy that is life as we get older, fatter, lazier? If that was his idea of our future, then I wanted no part of it. If, however, he was willing to allow God to change him, then I was willing to marry him. I wasn’t expecting perfection, nor was I planning on giving him a laundry list of what he should and shouldn’t do. I was expecting him to go to the Lord and ask for direction, help, and advice and then work on the answers that he received from the Lord through prayer and study.
Change can be one of the great glories of mortality, if we control the change. Education, repentance, health, patience, meekness, kindness, charity – all within the scope of our agency, if we would just start baby stepping in the right direction!
Every so often, I see a friend post on Facebook a triumph. “I have been sober for ___ amount of time.” “I have been drug free for ___ years.” That is AMAZING!!! What a testimony to change (and in most cases because of AA, a change with God).
I cannot understand why our media (literature especially) is replete with examples of weakness without redemption. What a small way to view mankind! And what’s the point? So that we realize that we are all mortal? Gee, that’s motivating!
It’s the part of immortality inside of us – the spiritual chromosomes given to us by our Heavenly Father that I’m interested in. Otherwise, why did the Savior make His exquisite sacrifice – so that we could be content to sit on the couch after a big meal and watch the world through our TV? No! He wants us to BECOME something great – better than we can imagine, but it all begins with the decision to control the changes that we have the ability to control.
So use your agency, and sing out “I am going to change, and I thank the Lord that I can!”